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Confidence, Success, and Happiness

As a leader, one of the most valuable qualities is confidence. The rest of your team will have more trust in your decisions if you show confidence. They’ll be more inclined to like you and pay attention to what you’re doing. You’ll also be able to take that self-assurance into negotiations, team meetings, client meetings, and other encounters, giving you a tactical edge.

The issue with trust is that it does not come easily to many people. You may not feel as optimistic as other people when they wake up in the morning.

But here’s a little known fact: some of the most optimistic people you’ve met weren’t born with natural confidence. They were, in reality, faking it. Alternatively, or they may have taught themselves to be more self-assured. Or you might do both. That is, until they actually do feel completely confident in themselves which will happen if you tell yourself why and how to be confident in yourself.

In other words, many people have to train their minds to be confident. It’s not an automatic trait in most cases. It’s a trait that takes years to develop and, as you become more comfortable in your niche, that confidence will begin to appear naturally.

What Makes You Feel Confident?

“Confidence” is a broad concept that encompasses a wide range of acts and behaviors during the day. You may be nervous about giving a pep talk in front of your colleagues. However, you may be perfectly secure in your ability to solve a difficult sudoku puzzle from the morning paper. Alternatively, you might feel comfortable doing something more straightforward, such as placing your drink order at the coffee shop before going to work.

In any case, there’s something you’re certain of, so concentrate on that. Even if it blends in with the “white noise” of your daily life, pay attention to this belief. Keep this assurance in mind. Concentrate on it. This feeling is likely to linger with you long after you’ve completed other tasks.

Bright, Positive Environments

Think about how you can improve your surroundings. We sometimes don’t know it, but our environments have a major effect on our self-esteem. Anything in your office, from the arrangement of your furniture to the color of the walls, will influence your thoughts and feelings.

If your office is tiny, dim, cramped, and segregated from other employees, for example, you will feel trapped, small, and disconnected. You’ll feel much better about yourself if you have a brightly lit, colorful office with decorations you like and admire. With more room, a higher seating position, better visibility and access, and, of course, more items that fit your personal taste, you can develop more confidence. Take the time to make your world more conducive to your own self-assurance; you’ll notice a difference almost immediately.

Body Language and Stance

Our brains are wired to connect our emotions to our body language. The majority of people are aware of this link; when we are happy, we smile, and when we are upset, we frown. But it’s not well known that this connection also works in the opposite direction: smiling can actually “trick” your brain into feeling happier.

You will benefit from this by striking poses associated with self-assured, strong people. You may, for example, stand tall with your chest raised and your hands on your hips. Alternatively, you can make a superhero pose with your arms.

Fake it Til You Make it IS REAL?!

We’ve all heard the phrase “fake it before you make it,” but did you know that it’s based on a scientific principle? The basic premise is that trust (or any other emotion) is dependent on a cluster of neurons firing in a specific order. Even if you’re only simulating trust and not really “feeling” it, you’ll be training these neurons to fire together and developing healthy habits that will gradually become second nature to you.

Let’s say you’re anxious and shy when you step into a team meeting. Instead, you push through and force yourself to appear confident; you maintain good composure, speak clearly and calmly, and show confidence in the face of skepticism from your colleagues. This pattern will become more familiar to you the next time you’re in this situation. It would be less difficult.

If you do this enough times in a variety of circumstances, you’ll begin to feel more secure naturally.

You’ll inspire more trust and faith in your colleagues as you gain more confidence as a leader. In sessions, you’ll have a more dominant presence. You’ll also win more meetings and come out on top in conflicts. These triumphs will eventually reinforce your trust even further, and you’ll wonder why you didn’t feel secure in the first place.

Don’t Forget to Be Happy

When we think of happiness, we usually think of things that give us instant pleasure, such as a delicious meal, a good book, or a relaxing day at the beach. These pleasures do make you happy, but only for a short time. True happiness, or life satisfaction, seems to function in a particular way, according to recent research.

Martin Seligman, a psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania, divided hundreds of people into three categories based on how they sought happiness:

The Pleasant Life: People who are pursuing the Pleasant Life are searching for fun in order to find satisfaction. They excel at savoring the present and prolonging their pleasures. These individuals are sometimes referred to as “thrill-seekers.”

The Engaged Life: People who live the Engaged Life work hard at their interests to find happiness. They become so engrossed in them that they seem cold and uncaring at times; however, time seems to melt away for them as they experience a state of complete commitment.

The Meaningful Life: People who are seeking the Meaningful Life use their talents to work for something they think will benefit the common good. They are profoundly motivated by the common good.

Though Seligman’s study is just one study in this field, it demonstrates that where you put your energy and attention has a significant effect on your happiness. Those who lived the Engaged Life and those who lived the Meaningful Life have one thing in common: they were genuinely passionate about what they did, and they used their talents to improve themselves and the world around them.

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